No one was born with the same talent and the same quantity. No Humming Bird looks at the crows in envy of their salvaging, wondering if it would feel better about itself if only it was awaiting the death of an unwary dog or cat. Is the great soaring hawk greater than the simple chickens walking around stalking its meal on foot laying eggs to feed the nation? No creature in nature is plagued by the conflict born of comparing itself to another, none fear that they should be something other than they are; each serve all, and all serve each. The best comes from difficulty so don’t let your abuses limit you. Be a phoenix and rise from your ashes; be better than your yesterday. My purpose starts where my background began so I stop saying “why me!” You are unique to the world. Do you believe that each person have a purpose? You are an answer to a problem so find and be that answer. I am, because you are; even your uneducated mother and dead beat father served their purpose -they add fire to your fuel and life. Many pressures caused a combustion, and oh, how today the sparks turn into this great flame that you are. So if nature did not have it that you bear children, perhaps your purpose is to foster those who will be parentless. You are dyslexic? Big deal, you are great with your talent of singing, dancing, painting, styling, planting crops, rearing animals… and I could go on. You can’t seem to find that amazing job but you could start a charity organization and volunteer to build your community, or start a little business that will provide employment for others. Lasting relationships just don’t seem to be your forte? That’s ok. Perhaps travelling the world sharing with others the gospel of being self-motivated and at peace with one’s self could be your call as you are a true and living testament to that. Yes, while we admire others and take qualities from them we must never try to fill the covers of our life with the pages they have written for themselves because we would be imitating; losing our true purpose and limiting ourselves to that person’s limits. Leap over those boundaries set by our parents and society at large; they will someday come to cheer you. Just a word of advice: Be careful who you make the centre of your life because when your centre shifts, which it oftentimes does, your whole life could so be the centre of someone else’s life. The plan After we came down the birth canal no manual was issued for our life so we had to learn each step of the way. Should all your titles be stripped away today and you’re no longer the manager, the wife, the husband, the relative of, and all the great accolades and honours that could be bestowed on any man, what’s the plan? If you know your purpose then vibrate at the highest frequencies in life and achieve all you can, but ensure you acknowledge and understand that you must give yourself what you love. No more wasting precious time in haunted deliberations over what you think others will love about you if only you step up and “satisfy” their social contrived expectations. Do this and this only; give yourself what you love and if this passion remains unsure or unknown to you look for the trails of its promise hidden within you. Follow your longing; it’s already connected to the source of itself. In this gradual unfolding of this daring act you will come to find the greatest love on earth; being what you and you alone are meant to do, and knowing that you have found yourself.
Armed with the understanding of herself and her worth, Keva went back to work and started ignoring all advances her boss made at her. A renewed woman who was no longer afraid so it wasn’t long before she resigned from her well paid job and decorative job titles to go home. She later started her very own design label and lord knows it wasn’t easy but she held fast to the dream. Keva’s demons still seek to haunt her but that bold shift she made years ago taught her when it was time to change. It’s not enough to want it, so like Keva many women worked on becoming successful entrepreneurs and got help from organisations such as Women Entrepreneur Network of the Caribbean (WENC) just to name one which works together with you to learn and develop your abilities as you strive to be a better version of yourself and make your contribution to yourself, and the world become yours to make your mark on in a positive way. Your current situation does not determine your future. Someone once told me if I’m driving and all the traffic is heading my direction this could very well mean I’m on the wrong side of the road so with all the confusions that this world presents into our lives daily we must not be afraid to change lanes when needs be. While working at a popular sports store my boss in one of his general meeting stated; “while being faithful to your job here I don’t want any of you married to my company”. I didn’t fully understand it there and then but after leaving the company I realise he could have very well meant there is better somewhere else. Make your check list today of where you’ve been the past five years ago, what your goals are for the next five years and where you are now. If you’re not pleased with what you’ve found then see if you have realistic goals. If they are that means it’s time to change your methods. Can’t do it alone? That’s fine; seek help like Keva and many others who did and make that needed paradigm shift, starting with injecting some positive energy into your life and where necessary you may need to change your circle because if those around you don’t have the same goals for you then you may be swayed or sidetracked. When your future no longer drags your past along you know you’re living.